Three Poems for a Friend Who Lost Her Beloved Husband

Posted by Elaine Magliaro

Whenever I face difficult times in my life…or suffer a great loss, I always turn to poetry. Reading poetry has helped me to cope with grief and tribulation.

The beloved husband of a friend passed away this week. The best way that I know how to honor his memory and to tell my friend how sorry I am is to post the following poems. I hope these poems will help to convey my sympathy to her and her family at this sad time in their lives.

Sonnet 43 by Elizabeth Barrett Browning

How Do I Love Thee? (Sonnet 43)
Elizabeth Barrett Browning, 1806 – 1861

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.


To My Dear and Loving Husband
Anne Bradstreet, 1612 – 1672

If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were loved by wife, then thee;
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare with me ye women if you can.
I prize thy love more than whole mines of gold,
Or all the riches that the East doth hold.
My love is such that rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee give recompense.
Thy love is such I can no way repay;
The heavens reward thee manifold, I pray.
Then while we live, in love let’s so persever,
That when we live no more we may live ever.



For My Daughter
David Ignatow

When I die choose a star
and name it after me
that you may know
I have not abandoned
or forgotten you.
You were such a star to me,
following you through birth
and childhood, my hand
in your hand.

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13 Responses to Three Poems for a Friend Who Lost Her Beloved Husband

  1. rafflaw says:

    May her husband rest in peace!

  2. From the stars we are all born, to the stars we all return.
    A most fitting tribute, Elaine.

  3. After I lost my beloved of 55 years, I discovered this poem/song by Leonard Cohen. My daughter found me sitting in our library, listening to it over and over. She put her arms around me and asked, “Daddy, why do you do this to yourself?”

    I told her the words and music helped with the feelings I was having. They are comforting, and I hope our dear friend may find Leonard speaks to her as well.

  4. Mike Spindell says:


    A beautiful tribute for a dear friend.

  5. My condolences, dear heart.

  6. swarthmoremom says:

    Very nice, Elaine.

  7. Mike Spindell says:

    For a man whose family will keep him and cherish him in their hearts:

  8. rafflaw says:

    Great song Chuck!

  9. rafflaw says:

    That Zevon song has a real Dylan sound to it!

  10. swarthmoremom says:

    Never imagined I would meet such a warm and gracious couple on a blog.

  11. gbk says:

    I am so very sorry to hear of this terrible loss. I hope strength is found through family to somewhat ease the sorrow.

    For the beauty of spring:

  12. Elaine M. says:


    My three-year-old granddaughter loves Vivaldi’s Four Seasons. She often asks me to play “Avaldi” for her.

  13. gbk says:

    This would be a great time to listen to it, Elaine. Tell your granddaughter, for me, that she has excellent tastes.

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